Unity

Love is a Frequency A couple of years ago, I visited Amma for a hug. I was especially curious about things surrounding the fleeting experience of hugging. Such as the desire to gather for a common cause. Or the desire to receive affection and be seen, however transiently, after waiting for hours in a packed congress hotel in Midtown Manhattan. My cynical friend, who had invited me to the event, was disappointed. According to his own words, he didn't feel a thing. Our conversation reminded me that sometimes expectations are the biggest obstacles blocking us from feeling. Demands and criticism follow a certain logic. Love, on the other hand, is not logical. It accepts. Love is a frequency. It can be seen as a passionate way of doing or making something, like art. It can come across as contentment, like being completely comfortable in your own body. Sometimes not saying something can be the most supportive and loving thing to do. In the same way, many loving gestures are carried out without the knowledge of others, without the expectation of reciprocation or attention. Unconditional giving is radical. So radical that it might cause a short circuit in the receiver's brain and momentarily make them more defensive. That doesn't mean the giving was wasted. Unconditional giving, as the name implies, does not expect or require response. But before giving to others, we have to learn to accept ourselves. This can be because we are conditioned to think that satisfaction does not rise from within, but is achieved through external achievements and acceptance. Yet, the truth is that getting approval in itself can't make a person whole, albeit it can enhance the process. While togetherness is a big part of love, the other half is about cultivating freedom and learning to let go. We are meant to evolve and transmute, together and as individuals. Dying is a natural part of this process of life and love. In the end, love is not about giving and receiving, it's in the being. It's not a tradeoff. Love doesn't necessarily have anything to do with another individual, either. Love is a frequency. When being in love, it becomes clear that on a deeper level we are all interconnected. In a way, we are all one.